I loss my Sister and Best Friend!
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My older sister is married to an abusive alcoholic asshole. About 10 years ago, she moved miles away, met a guy, and got pregnant quickly.
Well, they both got fired anyway and proceeded to have two more kids together. They have never had a good relationship with each other and she calls me often crying over the awful things he has said and done to her.
To my knowledge, he has never been physically violent but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. He has also cheated on her many times, often blatantly. One time, she found a love note from one of his side girlfriends hidden under a framed picture of their kids.
Lately, she tells me he has been drinking all day every day. He has jugs of vodka hidden all over the house, and often hides in the bathroom to chug booze. She could easily make it on her own as a single mother.
She has a well-paying career and loves her kids more than anything in the world. I think it is much worse for the kids to be around him because he is setting a horrible example for them.
That made me so angry.
Can you suggest other things I could do to help her despite the distance and my limited budget? It makes me so angry that he treats her like she is nothing and I would do anything in the world to help.
In this case, providing emotional support is the most you really can do. And you can also point her in the direction of professional alcoholism help. You can let her know that you support her whatever she decides to do, but if you mean that, then you have to support her even if what she decides is stay with the asshole husband.
Worse yet, you risk making her feel like your love and support is conditional and only available if she makes the decisions that you deem are the right ones.
So resist the urge to pressure your sister to make changes in her life. When she starts complaining about her husband, just listen.
Just listen to her. And remind her how much you love her, admire her, and believe in her.
When and if the time comes that she finds the courage to leave her husband, your support will help give her the confidence she needs to move forward.
And if she never leaves him, then at least she and her kids have someone solid like you in their corner giving them the love it sounds like they desperately need.Some of the most frequent questions we get are about computer or internet speed.
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